Unmasking the Lies: How Society Buries Brilliant Women
You followed all the rules, made steady progress, introduced order into the state of disorder, performed all the duties that were expected of you. For many years, you have been the strong one, holding everything together even though your own energy had decreased.
Yet a quiet kind of pain remains in you. There are moments when it seems as if you are living somebody else's life, confined in an invisible cage. The fatigue you feel is not an indication of weakness. It is the cost of having to survive in a perfect prison made of hidden lies which you never chose.
You are not defective. The reason why you are unable to move on is not because of a weakness. It is because of a number of invisible rules which have been imposed on you by a world that benefits from your doubt. The answer is not to work harder or to look for more remedies. Genuine freedom is achieved by eliminating each false lie until your true self can be seen.
Let us look at the ten hidden lies that built your cage to discover the truths that contain the keys to your freedom.
The Fawn Response Lie encouraged you to keep the peace by making yourself smaller. However, the peace you deserve is your own and will only come after you stop shrinking and stand up straight.
The next is the Self-Silencing Lie that says you should make your needs secondary. You have been taught to hide your desires, be content with what you have, and to never ask for more. But your needs should be the main concern, not something to be kept secret. When you begin to speak up about what is important to you, you will have access to the energy required to live the kind of life you genuinely want.
The conditioning known as the Identity Foreclosure Lie is that you have to be the person other people expect you to be. You've worn all sorts of masks as the good daughter, perfect partner, and the ideal worker. You no longer know who you are. However, it is up to you to create your own story. When you recover your identity, you stop pretending and can finally live a life that feels like home.
The Superwoman Schema tells you that you must deal with everything and must never fail. You've always been led to believe that your worth comes from performing perfectly. Yet you are not a machine but a powerful force. Once you no longer need to be a Superwoman, you'll have energy left over for what truly excites you.
You've been taught by the Emotional Labor Lie to silently take on other people's feelings. You've taken on a great deal of stress and made other people's lives easier. Emotional labor should be regarded as a gift rather than something unpleasant. You can finally permit yourself to feel your own emotions when you stop feeling responsible for other people's feelings.
Disease to Please is the conditioning that securing approval is just as essential as breathing. You changed yourself in order to satisfy other people's expectations and have therefore lost touch with your own identity. The thing that really matters, though, is staying true to yourself. When you stop seeking approval, you draw in people who love you for who you really are rather than for what you do.
The Beauty Myth makes you view your body as something that always needs fixing. It has led you to see it as a task with no end. Yet your body is actually your home. When you stop attempting to repair it, you'll have the energy to live fully instead of continually judging yourself.
You were taught by the Anger Taboo to keep your anger to yourself. You were programmed to hide it out of fear that it would make you less loved or safe. But anger can serve as a guide, not as a defect. If you allow yourself to feel it, you will be able to take action on what is truly important.
The Age Eraser conditioned you to regard youth as your most valuable asset. You were programmed to believe that your value diminishes as the years pass. In reality, age can be an asset. When you cease making excuses on the grounds of age, you enter a room with a confidence that is both obvious and earned.
Finally, the Perfection Trap means that anything less than perfect is regarded as a failure. You've been waiting for the perfect moment and the perfect version of yourself. However, when you stop being a perfectionist, you cease waiting and start making your mark now.
It wasn't your fault that these lies exist, but you do have the choice to escape from them. This journey is not about taking on more responsibilities, but about getting rid of what was never intended for you to carry in the first place. This is essentially what we at A Talented Mind help women achieve. We help them break free from these hidden social lies and live the hidden truths that set them free.
Are you ready to get out of the cage? Schedule a free consultation from A Talented Mind at atalentedmind.com.
